It is so difficult at times to keep positive and patient with our children especially when they are winding us up, but it is important to remember to always keep positive. When your child is misbehaving, and you feel like yelling at them, take a deep breath and think about what you want them to do instead. Here are a couple of things you can do to stay positive instead of yelling:
- Look for the positives – have positive affirmations written up in places where you will notice them. Things like, ‘I can deal with situations calmly.’
- Use some humor – when the children are uncontrollable, distract them with a joke or doing something silly like having a tantrum yourself. Have a list of jokes that will make the children laugh that you can use as distractions.
- Tell your children what they can do instead of what they can’t do. If they are fighting over a toy, then get another toy and show them how to play with it nicely.
- Ask for their help – be honest if you don’t know how to deal with them. Tell them you don’t know what to do and ask them if they have any suggestions. This not only distracts them but also gets them problem solving.